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The Bliss of the Moment

Date: February 12, 2015

What are the good ways to lead a balanced family atmosphere? Did you ever think of? Do you care your children in a lovable way? You might have tried to keep your standards in cooking, housekeeping, taking care of children or your desire to write, create and plan for the future. The reality is that no matter how much you do, it is never enough – the house, children and life will never be perfect and at that one moment you get on top of things. You have to keep the things in a balanced way and to move on. You don’t need to do things in with haste. Slow down and try to be present in each moment. Spent your precious time for playing with Baby and enjoy his smiles and activities. So you can realize yourself in you that you are enough to lead a good family and you are the best to lead a happy family. You will study to slow down your haste to complete the house works. But you will be doing it all with your friendly efforts and playing with your dear ones and babies at the same time. Stop constantly looking forward and thinking about the next thing to do and instead take your current time to do the cute works.

Precious Gifts a Person Leaves Behind

"The best of what a man leaves behind are three: a righteous child who supplicates for him, ongoing charity the reward of which reaches him, and knowledge that is acted upon after him."

Sunan Ibn Mājah

Angelic Daily Prayers for Generosity

"Every day two angels come down from Heaven and one of them says, 'O Allah! Compensate every person who spends in Your Cause,' and the other (angel) says, 'O Allah! Destroy every miser.'"

Sahih Bukhari

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